Constance, here is the deadly reality I live with. This pit-bull is in my room, all the time, straining at its flimsy leash…wanting to snap it and chew me to death.
I am pretty delivered from suicidal ideation, and have been so blessed to be surfing on top of waves of dysphoria rather than swamped by them…
…but bullying, harassment, and other forms of othering and policing…well, they just really destroy your soul in small pieces.
The “best ones” are the ones christians do to you cus “they love you so much”… those are the worst, because the spirit they operate in is the spirit of the dementor, and not of Jesus.
I want you each one to read this…and let it sink in…if you had to go thru this, just for breathing.
And then? If you ever see this going on? Make sure that you raise a ruckus right straight into the bullies’ faces. They are cowards at heart. That is why they attack those without power and privilege and seek to steal even the minute agency we have.
I had a recent experience when someone stood up for me…and I will never EVER forget how I felt when she just stood there fiercely and told someone that what they said was NOT OKAY, and that it was HIGHLY INAPPROPRIATE!
I felt very special, and something else, I felt as if I mattered.
I bet you a million dollars that there are people in her circle who didn’t like what was happening to her, but just never said anything…
…and I bet that they feel like their hands will never not have her blood on them now.
Because this was more than a suicide…this was murder by bully.
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Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
I love this post. I agree with you completely sugar. People need to take up arms against bullies. Its the only way to stop them, and help poor people who cannot fight for themselves.
Amen. Deeply, and firmly. Amen!
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Cowards and psychopaths, and unfortunately so much of society seems to facilitate them. Thank the Lord for people like your friend…
Yes…thank the Lord indeed. She has no idea how deeply her words empowered me…and I have told her numerous times.
Reblogged this on cornfedcontessa and commented:
This is so very sad. I lived in Milwaukee for many years. To be bullied by one’s own co-workers is despicable. The fact that this poor woman had to deal with this for ten years makes me sick. Everyone should be free to be whomever they please.
Thank you soo much…and I might add that not only should people be free to be whomever they please, but even more so in the case of transgender people, we should be free to be who we are!!
This is what most people do not fully grasp, even people who are kind and open minded: a trans-gender person does not merely “desire” to become the other gender…a tran-gender person IS their perceived gender as much as any other human being, they just find themselves housed in a body that is the opposite biology of their gender orientation.
This is not a matter of thinking, dreaming, wishing, or confusion. It is a matter of being.
Thus, if I could paraphrase your comment, I would say that everyone should be free to be who they are…trans as well as cis.
This is just heartbreaking.
*tears*
We teach out kids how to stand up to bullies, but as you so rightly point out, adults need to learn to step up too.
A study of my referral log is showing there is fairly intense concern on the part of the school district…after the fact…typical of a bully/abuser, caring about what happened only in terms of the potential deleterious consequences to their own wretched skin.