#Transgender – #CaitlynJenner VS the Realities of Transition | Tamlyn Mac – The Writer’s Transition

Caitlyn’s anguish at her gender identity is certainly not in dispute, and the challenges she has faced are massive, but they are not representative of most Transgender people. I am concerned that people’s understanding of gender transition will be influenced by Caitlyn’s narrative, and that she may become the standard to which other Transpeople are held. For all the emotional turmoil and inner conflict over her life, once her decision to transition was made, the journey was straightforward and accessible to her. For the rest of us, the decision is the start of a years long Journey in full view of everyone without the partitions of camera lenses or security gates.

via #Transgender – #CaitlynJenner VS the Realities of Transition | Tamlyn Mac – The Writer’s Transition.

Constance, this says it very well why I will not be following the Jenner transition story…it is not relatable to me, really, and if anything will dramatically influence the way that the vast majority of people who are not transgender view transition.

I am soo happy for her, really!  She made it!  She didn’t kill herself.

And I will be knowing next to nothing about what she does, so don’t even bother asking me what I think of this or that, cus I will likely be ignorant.



As I was not able to comment directly on the blog…

I am reblogging this.

Wonderful, WONDERFUL stuff.

Thank you so much, Sister, for your courage, and I assure you the wisdom of your choices now sets you up to be an authentic voice of liberty in the years to come.

Blessings, and deep thanks and gratitude,

Waiting in the modern world

Abstinence takes a lot of strength.  What I didn’t realize until the past year or so was how that strength has rubbed off on other areas of my life.  I’ve talked about my strength and confidence and how staying secure with myself has helped me stay abstinent but I’ve never really explained the will power it takes.  When you like someone or get caught up in the moment most people think oh well I guess this one time I can let it happen but even when I’m in a relationship where that’s okay for most people, I still have to say no.  You don’t know the will power it takes to be abstinent or celibate until you’ve been in love with someone and pictured spending your life with them and still had the power to abstain.  It’s not easy.

But another area that I believe this had helped me is with…

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Here Is What’s Funny:

So many sit in the mudroom with the galoshes, raincoats, and beanies…and they imagine they are in my inner chambers because I bring them cookies and hot chockie and tea, and if they are of the sort, a wee dram or 3 along with some salted almonds roasted with herbs…

…they are blind to the door that is just sitting, waiting…the motto over the top is the same as the one over Moria…but the anteroom is so dang snug (never mind the mess of shoes and the stink of stale rain steaming in the warmth as all things dry and the sodden woolen scarves and mittens air out)…

the kitchen is behind the door, Constance, and it is a very roomy kitchen but never too large…snug and just so, always with just enough room for every person to feel intimate and personally received into a special time and place.  It is a wonderfully strange space, because it expands and contracts of its own volition according to the way it perceives the need.

The kitchen takes me along for the ride.

I love my kitchen, the one inside me, with the ovens…yes, there are multiple ovens, some for cooking bread, and some for meat…and some for delectable tasty wonderful treats.  Cookies and cakes and pies and more.  I love my range, and what a range it is…

…and I love the eating bar, with its ever growing/shrinking spaces snug and comfy and close for the ones who simply have the courage, will, and interest in simply saying the word that opens the door and coming on in.

I serve good food in my kitchen.
I serve nutritious food, that is not stodgy and boring.
I never serve poison in my kitchen.


There is music in the kitchen, playing softly in the background at times, and other times crashing loudly like thundrous waves on the shores of our hearts…the style changes on its own, but always has some Van Morrison, some Eliza Gilkyson, some Bruce Cockburn, some Caitlin Maude, some Archie Fischer, and tons of instrumental folk music from around the world…usually Celtic in nature.

There are rock and roll days in the kitchen, when The Blasters blast, The Standells sing of Dirty Water and Boston, CCR wants to direct attention out the backdoor, and Rob Jungklas tells us all about that Memphis Thing.

There are nights when The Pretenders, The Drifters, The Standells, and Frankie Valli croon and soar…

there are nights…yes.

And always ALWAYS, Mama is there, lingering in all things, blessing all things.

My Kitchen:  it is known as Grace…

I do not keep people out…but I have set things up where they keep themselves out if they are not amenable to the humility of receiving grace.

Personality Types

There are many ways of looking at personality type…I sort of like the Jungian approach, also known as Humanmetrics Jung Typology Test™

Humanmetrics Jung Typology Test™

I think personality is far more complex than these types, but they do serve as ready tools to help you recognize certain compass points, and perhaps not end up in that particular wilderness to which you are susceptible to being lost in.

This is my type:  Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging (oh  and btw:  if you think Charissa Grace is an extrovert, you are floating on the surface admiring the amazing iceberg that is glistening in the sun against that crystal blue sky.

INFJ Description by Marina Margaret Heiss and Joe Butt

INFJs are distinguished by both their complexity of character and the unusual range and depth of their talents. Strongly humanitarian in outlook, INFJs tend to be idealists, and because of their J preference for closure and completion, they are generally “doers” as well as dreamers. This rare combination of vision and practicality often results in INFJs taking a disproportionate amount of responsibility in the various causes to which so many of them seem to be drawn.

INFJs are deeply concerned about their relations with individuals as well as the state of humanity at large. They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people — a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world.

On the contrary, INFJs are true introverts, who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with a chosen few from among their long-term friends, family, or obvious “soul mates.” While instinctively courting the personal and organizational demands continually made upon them by others, at intervals INFJs will suddenly withdraw into themselves, sometimes shutting out even their intimates.

This apparent paradox is a necessary escape valve for them, providing both time to rebuild their depleted resources and a filter to prevent the emotional overload to which they are so susceptible as inherent “givers.” As a pattern of behavior, it is perhaps the most confusing aspect of the enigmatic INFJ character to outsiders, and hence the most often misunderstood — particularly by those who have little experience with this rare type.

Due in part to the unique perspective produced by this alternation between detachment and involvement in the lives of the people around them, INFJs may well have the clearest insights of all the types into the motivations of others, for good and for evil. The most important contributing factor to this uncanny gift, however, are the empathic abilities often found in Fs, which seem to be especially heightened in the INFJ type (possibly by the dominance of the introverted N function).

This empathy can serve as a classic example of the two-edged nature of certain INFJ talents, as it can be strong enough to cause discomfort or pain in negative or stressful situations. More explicit inner conflicts are also not uncommon in INFJs; it is possible to speculate that the causes for some of these may lie in the specific combinations of preferences which define this complex type. For instance, there can sometimes be a “tug-of-war” between NF vision and idealism and the J practicality that urges compromise for the sake of achieving the highest priority goals. And the I and J combination, while perhaps enhancing self-awareness, may make it difficult for INFJs to articulate their deepest and most convoluted feelings.

Usually self-expression comes more easily to INFJs on paper, as they tend to have strong writing skills. Since in addition they often possess a strong personal charisma, INFJs are generally well-suited to the “inspirational” professions such as teaching (especially in higher education) and religious leadership. Psychology and counseling are other obvious choices, but overall, INFJs can be exceptionally difficult to pigeonhole by their career paths.

Perhaps the best example of this occurs in the technical fields. Many INFJs perceive themselves at a disadvantage when dealing with the mystique and formality of “hard logic”, and in academic terms this may cause a tendency to gravitate towards the liberal arts rather than the sciences. However, the significant minority of INFJs who do pursue studies and careers in the latter areas tend to be as successful as their T counterparts, as it is *iNtuition* — the dominant function for the INFJ type — which governs the ability to understand abstract theory and implement it creatively.

In their own way, INFJs are just as much “systems builders” as are INTJs; the difference lies in that most INFJ “systems” are founded on human beings and human values, rather than information and technology. Their systems may for these reasons be conceptually “blurrier” than analogous NT ones, harder to measure in strict numerical terms, and easier to take for granted — yet it is these same underlying reasons which make the resulting contributions to society so vital and profound.

Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the weightier matters of life.  Those who are activists – INFJs gravitate toward such a role – are there for the cause, not for personal glory or political power.

INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden.  They often are found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute distress.  INFJs may fantasize about getting revenge on those who victimize the defenseless.  The concept of ‘poetic justice’ is appealing to the INFJ.

“There’s something rotten in Denmark.” Accurately suspicious about others’ motives, INFJs are not easily led.  These are the people that you can rarely fool any of the time.  Though affable and sympathetic to most, INFJs are selective about their friends.  Such a friendship is a symbiotic bond that transcends mere words.

INFJs have a knack for fluency in language and facility in communication. In addition, nonverbal sensitivity enables the INFJ to know and be known by others intimately.

Writing, counseling, public service and even politics are areas where INFJs frequently find their niche.

(INFJ stands for Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging and represents individual’s preferences in four dimensions characterising personality type, according to Jung’s and Briggs Myers’ theories of personality type.)

Functional Analysis Of The INFJ
Based on Jung’s framework of mental functions – by Joe Butt
Introverted iNtuition

Introverted intuitives, INFJs enjoy a greater clarity of perception of inner, unconscious processes than all but their INTJ cousins. Just as SP types commune with the object and “live in the here and now” of the physical world, INFJs readily grasp the hidden psychological stimuli behind the more observable dynamics of behavior and affect. Their amazing ability to deduce the inner workings of the mind, will and emotions of others gives INFJs their reputation as prophets and seers. Unlike the confining, routinizing nature of introverted sensing, introverted intuition frees this type to act insightfully and spontaneously as unique solutions arise on an event by event basis.

Extraverted Feeling

Extraverted feeling, the auxiliary deciding function, expresses a range of emotion and opinions of, for and about people. INFJs, like many other FJ types, find themselves caught between the desire to express their wealth of feelings and moral conclusions about the actions and attitudes of others, and the awareness of the consequences of unbridled candor. Some vent the attending emotions in private, to trusted allies. Such confidants are chosen with care, for INFJs are well aware of the treachery that can reside in the hearts of mortals. This particular combination of introverted intuition and extraverted feeling provides INFJs with the raw material from which perceptive counselors are shaped.

Introverted Thinking

The INFJ’s thinking is introverted, turned toward the subject. Perhaps it is when the INFJ’s thinking function is operative that they are most aloof. A comrade might surmise that such detachment signals a disillusionment, that she has also been found lacking by the sardonic eye of this one who plumbs the depths of the human spirit. Experience suggests that such distancing is merely an indication that the seer is hard at work and focusing energy into this less efficient tertiary function.

Extraverted Sensing

INFJs are twice blessed with clarity of vision, both internal and external. Just as they possess inner vision which is drawn to the forms of the unconscious, they also have external sensing perception which readily takes hold of worldly objects. Sensing, however, is the weakest of the INFJ’s arsenal and the most vulnerable. INFJs, like their fellow intuitives, may be so absorbed in intuitive perceiving that they become oblivious to physical reality. The INFJ under stress may fall prey to various forms of immediate gratification. Awareness of extraverted sensing is probably the source of the “SP wannabe” side of INFJs. Many yearn to live spontaneously; it’s not uncommon for INFJ actors to take on an SP (often ESTP) role.

Famous INFJs by Joe Butt
Nathan, prophet of Israel
Robert Burns, Scottish poet
Martin Van Buren
James Earl “Jimmy” Carter
Nathaniel Hawthorne
Fanny Crosby, (blind) hymnist
Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Fred McMurray (My Three Sons)
Shirley Temple Black, child actor, ambassador
Martin Luther King, Jr., civil rights leader, martyr
James Reston, newspaper reporter
Shirley MacLaine (Sweet Charity, …)
Piers Anthony, author (“Xanth” series)
Michael Landon (Little House on the Prairie)
Tom Selleck
John Katz, critic, author
Paul Stookey (Peter, Paul and Mary)
U.S.Senator Carol Moseley-Braun (D-IL)
Billy Crystal
Garry Trudeau (Doonesbury)
Nelson Mandela
Mel Gibson
Carrie Fisher
Nicole Kidman
Jerry Seinfeld
Jamie Foxx
Sela Ward
Mark Harmon
Gary Dourdan
Marg Helgaberger
Evangeline Lilly
Tori May