Dear Constace…any of you struggle with self-loathing? Oh I know, we all at times don’t like ourselves, but that is different. I struggle with self-loathing…a lot. Self-Loathing is when you know better cognitively, you recognize that the feelings you have about yourself are inaccurate and not true in any external objective sense, but the feelings themselves just don’t care! They exist anyway, no matter what you tell them or believe.
Usually the best I can get by myself is a compromise: I will ignore you (the feelings) and you (the feelings) will hate me and we will just walk thru the day that way. And silence…well silence is like gasoline to self-loathing because it feeds the feelings and the feelings get control and feed the wrong thoughts which feed the feelings and before you know it I am in internal 5 alarm fire and human emotional conflagration.
But there is a wild card: Love. Love can break the back of the feelings and make them go away, whether it be the words of my baby or my bestie or even a stray compliment from a total stranger.
And Mama…She has saved the day so often.
Well, I saw this lil quote and it made me smile, cus yeah…this works too! Thanks Darling!!!
tell me which part of yourself
you hate the most
so I know exactly where to plant my lips
every time I see you