Constance, I am pressing this, not because I am augering for any one of these things, but because it is helpful to cultivate an overall sense of not being compelled to police other people!!
Constance, Brynn has truly touched the core of the issue, and has put into words what I have flailed at for post after post after post.
She speaks of the major issues that assail transgender people as we seek to deal with the storms that assail us living as transgender in a gender binary prison.
The things she says about suicide prevention, and why those things are far less effective in convincing a transgender person it is worth it to stick around are powerful! I actually teared up as she verbalized what my heart feels when I deal with daily living.
Things like “Optimism for my future”, “belief that life has purpose and meaning”, and “strong social support from family, friends, and co-workers”…yeah, she shows so clearly how those sorts of things resonate far more sinister in a transgender heart.
Please read her article…and as you do, let this sink in: I myself in my entirety affirm the absolute reality of these things she writes of…and that is from a woman who is beloved of God and knows it…and still faces this onslaught daily.
I cannot even begin to imagine how others face their lives, and my heart is broken. I think that’s why I try to talk to each and every person I meet as if I am the last person that they will encounter in their life…I want that encounter to be the best one they ever had.
Do Justice. Love Mercy. Walk Humbly.
Good Morning Constance. 🙂
I do not spend a ton of time (any time) questioning the legitimacy or reality of my being transgender. Too many things that never made sense ever in my life now do…too many good and fruitful things are happening in my life as I heal and integrate and actualize who I really am vs who I was “trying to be”, too many good fruits of the spirit are blossoming and coming forth in the last 1 1/2 years that were not there previously.
But: Ignorance is great, fear is greater, and their bastard child hatred is the most vengeful of all. As knowledge is the greatest answer to ignorance, and wisdom is the greatest answer to fear, I am reposting this article to assist any of you who might be “okay with Charissa:” but not so okay with other transgender people or their lifestyle choices.
I get that. It is definitely a brave new world outside the binary and learning about all the gender variations that have always existed but been shunted away to the side because they are not “convenient”
Well, Time Magazine just did some writing on Transgender issues, and it stirred up a bit of ignorant backlash. Brynn Tannehill does a great job of rebutting that backlash, and it should give you plenty of ammo to lay aside questions of legitimacy, and return to the essential question present always with all people:
“How can I live so as to embody faith, hope, and love?”
Shining in new life, and being changed by degrees, from glory to Glory!
There is something that happens which is caustic, impossible to put into words, and the worst feeling that I can recall enduring.
Out of all bad feelings a cis-gendered person is inclined to view the above statement as overly dramatic or exaggerated. After all, how can words hurt? “C’mon!! Lighten up, right?”
NO! NOT. RIGHT!
Brynn Tannehill writes a cogent and persuasive essay that sums it up far better than I…but I would like you to know: as someone who is just living my life and is not “an activist” (though that topic is one that I will write on…Activism: A Calling to Anyone Who Breathes), I have nearly died from internalized transphobia, because the side effects of this process are deadly.
Increased self hatred. Decreased social desire and involvement. Longing for only the ceasing of pain, even if it means the ceasing of life.
And ultimately, that ill wind snuffs a flickering and sputtering candle leaving only the smoking and naked wick mourning in the wake of the death of another transgender person.
I ask you: Is it really worth it? Indulging your hate and fear…nursing your fear of the unknown, and the orgiastic release of projecting your own “Monster/Shadow” onto whatever people group is below you, currently transgender people?
I am truly convinced that the majority of hatred expressed against transgender people is done from ignorance and literal unawareness of the issues at stake and the operative dynamic effect on the recipients. But that fact doesn’t make the result any less deadly. Like any disease that kills…there is no conscious thought or intention from the killing organism. It just does what it does and death grows fat on misery.
Ponder please? And read on…