Constance, perhaps you could take the time to watch this video…it’s lyrics also apply to me and my situation. I am soo very lucky, in that my beloved loves me, from the beginning, and now, and to come.
But so many people are outcast from the circle of love and affection by the ways our culture has formed expectations and unspoken rules and allowances, based on specific understandings (or lack thereof) of moral codes, on binary gender expectations that do not even come close to fitting the wide expression of actual physical expression of gender, even down to the DNA…
As you watch, won’t you please resolve to be kind t everyone you meet?
Oh…and here is a clue: being kind does not mean “hating the sin but loving the sinner”! That is a nice and neat idea, and yet it is designed for the sake of the one who fancies themself not a sinner…it unconsciously creates a barrier, and regardless of how nice you are then? You will be condescending, and you will undercut your message, and ultimately fall woefully short of the example of Jesus.
Remember Him? Yunno, the One who drew so close to sinners He was accused by the conservative religious crowd of His day of being a sinner…and let a prostitute wash His feet with her tears (oh, you sin-haters and sinner lovers…have you ever cried such tears at the feet of Jesus, and then dried them with your hair because you were so grateful for His kindness to you? Just wonderin’…), the One who ate lunch and dinner and celebrated with sinners everyday.
I know these things to be true…because long ago, when I was still deeply dissociated and yet drawn by Their love for me and thus had said Yes to Them, I was a staunch practitioner of that glib maxim above. And I recall how finally it dawned on my how haughty I was, how like the man in the temple who was thanking God that he was not like the sinner over across the way who was weeping and howling and crying out for mercy as he beat his chest in agony and desperation…
A kind word to those in need. Such a small thing really, and yet it is the biggest thing under the sun.