My Previous One Post about sexuality

The idea that sex is something a woman gives a man, and she loses something when she does that, which again for me is nonsense. I want us to raise girls differently where boys and girls start to see sexuality as something that they own, rather than something that a boy takes from a girl.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

 

Constance, I have written precisely one time on my explicit beliefs regarding sexuality and love.  You can find that post at Love, In a Sexual World .

I reference that post, because it is saying very similar things to this lil quote I posted…

…the key point in this quote and the absolutely essential thing to grasp is this:  sexuality is something you are given as your very own, and thus it belongs to you.  It is a state of being that is held in potential, and when you choose to engage it, you forever are altered…just like when you get married, or become a parent.

Oh…marriages can end, but you will always “have been married”…children can die, but you can never “un-become” being a parent.

And to take someone’s sexuality…to let it be taken…well, that is the greatest act of theft that can occur:  either the person taking it the greatest thief or the one letting it being taken the greatest thief from themself.

Recently I have been beset with acts of betrayal and broken trust.  And in another place where I attempted to contact an author whose book raised many things, I found myself accused again of sin…sexual sin, mind you…simply for being open that I am transgender.

As a matter of fact, sexuality is actually one area that is pretty darn together in my life, thanks to Mama and my darling holder of my heart.

I will soon post about the awful and hateful things that were said by complete strangers…but in the meantime, seeing this quote reminded me:

teach your children that they possess the gift of the ages:  their sexuality and the right of its dispensation.

Love, Charissa Grace

bleeding and cut, bruised and battered, but refusing the bribes of defeat

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6 thoughts on “My Previous One Post about sexuality

  1. My heart truly goes out to you.What you write makes sense but am so sorry that you have had to experience the sadness that you have.

    • Thanks GK…but I would encourage you to do like I do…I (and you) cannot change what has happened to me, but we can indeed influence the “what will happen” of the future, yes?

      Resolve to do justly, love mercy and walk humbly…and help the powerless everywhere.

      • You are a truly beautiful lady ma’am! I count it a privilege to read your outstanding work and even more of a privilege to count you as my friend!

  2. It’s so important to teach children that their sexuality is their own. I think we live in a day and age when there is more openness on this topic- at least I know that I talked to Kris and my husband talked to Michael and Andrew about this more than our parents talked to us, which was not at all. Actually I might have been the one to talk to Andrew as well. Doesn’t matter. Like you, I’m hoping parents are teaching their children this lesson.

  3. Deep breath here:

    “And to take someone’s sexuality…to let it be taken…well, that is the greatest act of theft that can occur: either the person taking it the greatest thief or the one letting it being taken the greatest thief from themself.”

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