Why NOT Me?

The litany inside during conflict always says to us:  THEY need to apologize, THEY need to make the first move!

I am MORE than willing to enter in and work things out…AFTER they make the first overture.

But I ask myself, and you…why NOT me making the first move?  Is there a good reason, if there will be resolve, to dig in and make the other person move first?

What does it matter who was first last time…or the time before…if the move itself makes it possible for true resolve and reconciliation?

Yeah…why NOT me?